Schools began and with them began conflicts between mothers and their children over the performance of school assignments. I see many mothers who take homework very seriously and consider it a sign of their own success or failure. If homework is a source of tension between you and your children, this article is for you.

 Unfortunately, the issue may turn into a battle between the two parties to impose authority and power, and both of them want to prove that they can do what they want, and things escalate between them and anger, tension and anxiety ignite, which distances them from the main topic, which is (performing school homework).

Dear first and foremost, your relationship with your children is the most important. Remember that you are on a long journey of education and on this subject in particular, do not lose your child. Several years of study will end, but the impact of the conflicts that were occurring between you because of it will continue throughout life. He needs him in this position? Make your view more comprehensive and look at it from different angles to achieve the greatest benefit.

Homework is the student’s responsibility, not yours. If you are the only one who cares about it, he does not need to care. The best you can do is encourage him, help him, and qualify him to be responsible and know how to do his tasks. Your job is to guide him and make him feel and care about the consequences of his actions. And do not let your method be one of intimidation and intimidation, because this may be a temporary solution only, he will do it because he is afraid, and if the fear is removed he will not do it. Unfortunately, many mothers find it easier to do it themselves, as if they are saying: You can't do anything alone and there will always be someone to blame. Today I give you some general advice suitable for everyone and some special advice according to the child’s personality and the reason why he evades school duties:

Prepare in your home a suitable place away from distractions, do not expect the child to focus if the television is turned on near him or his brother is playing near him. With all the supplies he will need so that your child does not have to interrupt the task under the pretext of bringing what he needs.

Determine the appropriate time and prepare a routine on this basis. A fixed routine will shorten you a lot of discussions and preparation

Encourage your child to plan for himself and take responsibility. In the beginning, direct him to how to set a schedule of tasks, and be firm in the application and the agreed times

Take care of your body and yourself and be calm and comfortable at the time of duties, if you are tired and tense often, you will get angry quickly and the matter will turn into a battlefield.

Connect school duties and tasks in life, according to the subject he is studying. Explain to him what are their benefits and uses, and what are the consequences of not knowing them.

Use the appropriate stimuli for your son, each of us has something to motivate him and you know your child, but you do not make the subject turn into material rewards all the time, so he does not do anything without a bribe

Understand your child's educational style, is it audio-visual or sensory, it will save you a lot

Teach your child to understand exactly what the teacher wants so that he does not waste time with unnecessary things

Divide the time into sections, including short breaks. It is better than thinking that it will be a long continuous time

Praise the effort he did, do not praise him for what he is not, and do not make him an excessive praise

He is a child and does not have the ability to correctly imagine the amount of time and effort he needs, and he will certainly see everything as more fun than doing his homework, so he chooses to play and postpone duties, and when the time for delivery approaches, the time will be late.

Make sure he understands and knows the details of the task. Then help him visualize the time he needs. If he needs a lot of time, help him make a schedule that breaks down the task for several days, and each time I firmly insist that the fun will be after what he has to do today.

A child who loves idealism feels nervous and worried that his work will not be perfect and to the fullest, which makes him retract his performance for his fear of not being perfect. without evaluating the result. Like saying: Baby, if you're giving your best, that's for sure regardless of the outcome. Also, do not make him distract himself while working on evaluating what he is doing, as this may delay him and make him repeat from the beginning again.

If your son is doing homework too quickly without mastering because he finds it too silly and not worth wasting his time on, the best you can do is review what he did and then direct him to his mistakes and make him repeat them so that he understands that speed sometimes slows him down because he will redo what he did

If your son is rebellious because he does not see the benefit of a particular subject and is interested in other subjects, the best thing that can be done is to link this subject to life and explain that even if his interest is only in a particular subject, information about other subjects is also important and that even when he grows up even if he specializes Of what he likes, there will always be parts he doesn't like to do. And if it becomes difficult for you and he is not convinced, tell him that you do not have to love her or be convinced of her, but you must do your duties.

But if your son forgets his tasks: in this case, help your son to organize and write down his tasks, perhaps in an agenda, small posters, or electronic alerts. Remember, you do not want to be his secretary for life and tell him what tasks he has, but better. What you can do is qualify him to know what it is